If you really want to know how to attract women, you need to first know what women want.
Women, on a most basic, primal level want a man with alpha male traits.
Some people are confused about just what it means to exhibit alpha male traits. Being an alpha male does not mean being a jerk.
If you want to know how to attract women, you have to weed out the characteristics that alpha males display so you can spark her interest and yet avoid being a creep.An alpha male is a man who is a leader. He isn’t afraid to take charge in some area of his life. He might be the guy in charge of the neighborhood block party. He might be president of the chess club. He might even be a CEO, but the point is he doesn’t have to be. He can be the leader of something smaller than a Fortune 500 corporation and still be just as attractive to a woman.
An alpha male is a man who is decisive. He is not wishy-washy. He knows how to make a decision and isn’t afraid if it ends up being wrong later on. He moves through live with certainty.
Knowing how to attract women doesn’t mean being perfect. It’s okay to make mistakes. What’s more important is displaying traits that women want.
An alpha male is able to protect and provide. You don’t have to be six-foot-seven and two hundred and fifty pounds to do this. You can be small and still be a guy who can protect a woman. It only takes training and knowledge. A black belt in karate is more powerful than some lumbering giant who knows nothing about self-defense.
Women also want a man who can provide. If you can show you are a provider, you automatically increase your social value.
The irony is that women today don’t need to be taken care of. But at a primal level, this is still something that they are attracted to. So, even if you were wooing, a powerful diplomat with a self-made fortune, you’d be best to be a man who shows he can provide.
An alpha male is self-confident. If you want to know how to attract women, you’d also be best off cultivating this, which is possibly the most important characteristic when it comes to attracting women.
That, actually, should be the very first thing you work on when you embark on your journey of attracting women. Take a little time on the front end to get you some self-esteem and it will pay off big time later.
You might have to take a long, hard look at areas where you can spend some time at self-improvement to truly achieve the level of self-confidence you deserve.
With an honest self-assessment, you might decide that your confidence level is hampered by some excess weight or the fear of public speaking or something else. Everyone on this planet has areas of insecurity. It’s just a matter of determining whether these insecurities are standing in your way of success.
But don’t forget during your self-assessment to recognize and revel in the traits that make you uniquely different and worth dating. Just keeping that knowledge on the surface of your conscious is another great way to attract women.
- Views From An Alpha Male (forbes.com)