I’m sure there are hundreds, if not thousands, of ways to blow it with a girl through text messaging. But let’s take a look at some of the obvious ones. These are just gentle reminders of what doesn’t work. It really shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to realize this, but let’s face it; even the best of us forget what works and what doesn’t at times.
Consider these tips gentle reminders of what girl’s don’t want to see in a text or online message from you. The idea is if you figure out what not to do, then there is a good chance you’ll do what women do want.
Hold the Sex Talk.
The first thing to avoid when texting a girl — or emailing her or messaging her — is saying anything that has anything to do with sex. I know that sounds pretty harsh and stringent. Here is why. Most guys think they know how to successfully talk about sex. They don’t. Most guys think what they are saying is a turn off. It’s not. Most guys just don’t quite get it right. The thing is, with anything written down, the odds are very high of missing the right tone or saying something that in person might not be offensive, but in writing is downright creepy.
Keep it Brief
The second biggest mistake that guys make over and over is rambling on and on. This is especially egregious if the guy is not a natural born writer. If he sounds like a chump or has misspellings, he has a huge mark against him before he even meets the girl in person. To avoid this and to avoid seeming like a desperate bore, keep all written communication to a bare minimum. Save your efforts to build attraction for when you see the girl in person. Chances of making her attracted to you by what you write are so slim it is not worth even trying. However, the chances of her losing her attraction to you over something you write is pretty high, so avoid it altogether.
Remember that Texting is a Tool
Now, this applies to emails and instant messaging, as well. When you are writing something to a woman or girl this means that you are obviously not with her in person. Fail. Your goal in writing to a woman should be one thing and one thing only: to arrange an in person meeting. Some men think it is okay to carry on entire relationships online. Fine. Don’t be one of them. Your goal is to arrange an in person meeting. Of course, all of this is irrelevant is you have a girlfriend and you are using texting and emailing and instant messaging to tease and flirt and build attraction early in the day before you get together , and before you ask – more on flirting can be found here: http://www.puaforums.com/. That is a whole different story. The attraction and intimacy are already there. This only applies to someone new. Maybe even someone you’ve only dated once. Remember, what you write is only a tool in your arsenal to get her to meet you in person where attraction and seduction begins.
So, if you follow these three simple rules, you’ll be a head above most of the other guys out there blindly and wildly texting girls. Good luck.