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Ways To Blow It When Text Messaging

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I’m sure there are hundreds, if not thousands, of ways to blow it with a girl through text messaging. But let’s take a look at some of the obvious ones. These are just gentle reminders of what doesn’t work. It really shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to realize this, but let’s face it; even the best of us forget what works and what doesn’t at times.

Consider these tips gentle reminders of what girl’s don’t want to see in a text or online message from you. The idea is if you figure out what not to do, then there is a good chance you’ll do what women do want.

Hold the Sex Talk.
The first thing to avoid when texting a girl — or emailing her or messaging her — is saying anything that has anything to do with sex. I know that sounds pretty harsh and stringent. Here is why. Most guys think they know how to successfully talk about sex. They don’t. Most guys think what they are saying is a turn off. It’s not. Most guys just don’t quite get it right. The thing is, with anything written down, the odds are very high of missing the right tone or saying something that in person might not be offensive, but in writing is downright creepy.

Keep it Brief
The second biggest mistake that guys make over and over is rambling on and on. This is especially egregious if the guy is not a natural born writer. If he sounds like a chump or has misspellings, he has a huge mark against him before he even meets the girl in person. To avoid this and to avoid seeming like a desperate bore, keep all written communication to a bare minimum. Save your efforts to build attraction for when you see the girl in person. Chances of making her attracted to you by what you write are so slim it is not worth even trying. However, the chances of her losing her attraction to you over something you write is pretty high, so avoid it altogether.

Remember that Texting is a Tool
Now, this applies to emails and instant messaging, as well. When you are writing something to a woman or girl this means that you are obviously not with her in person. Fail. Your goal in writing to a woman should be one thing and one thing only: to arrange an in person meeting. Some men think it is okay to carry on entire relationships online. Fine. Don’t be one of them. Your goal is to arrange an in person meeting. Of course, all of this is irrelevant is you have a girlfriend and you are using texting and emailing and instant messaging to tease and flirt and build attraction early in the day before you get together , and before you ask – more on flirting can be found here: http://www.puaforums.com/. That is a whole different story. The attraction and intimacy are already there. This only applies to someone new. Maybe even someone you’ve only dated once. Remember, what you write is only a tool in your arsenal to get her to meet you in person where attraction and seduction begins.

So, if you follow these three simple rules, you’ll be a head above most of the other guys out there blindly and wildly texting girls. Good luck.

I Am The Prize

Being a rock star in the dating world isn’t always easy.

It seems like the competition is stiffer than any job search on earth.

But this is only a perception.

Men who learn a few key facts and techniques about dating will stand head and shoulders above ninety-five percent of the other single men on the planet.

If you’ve done any research into how to be successful in dating, you probably know that self-confidence is key.

You probably already know that first impressions count and that women prefer men who exhibit alpha male traits. You know all these important things, but implementing or even projecting them can sometimes be a bear.

What’s a guy hungry to date hot women to do?

Well, you can start by memorizing a teeny little phrase that will serve you through times of insecurity and confusion. What is that phrase?

It’s simple:
You are the prize.

If you remember this simple phrase, you are halfway to knowing all the secrets to success in the dating arena.

And it’s not simply about knowing the phrase. Lots of men have heard this phrase and done nothing with it. So, it’s not about knowing it, it’s about making it your mantra. When you make something your mantra, you call on it; you draw on it, in times of self-doubt and insecurity.

It is always there for you to bolster you and your game.

For instance, say, you are having a boring text conversation that is quickly going south. You aren’t sure how to salvage the conversation and you can see the writing on the wall. What you say next is going to make or break any chance of figure interaction with this woman.

So, you sit there, pulling your hair out trying to figure out exactly the right thing to say. It has to be something that not only builds attraction but also turns the entire relationship, which is clearly on its last leg, around.

So, what do you text back? Here’s the key, it’s not so much what you text back to the girl, it’s what your attitude is in that statement you are making.

Here’s where you invoke your mantra. “I am the prize.”

No matter what your little fingers type into that phone, it needs to reflect this belief.

It doesn’t matter what exactly you say as long as you are projecting that attitude and value: I am the prize.

Or say, you walk up to open a group of football cheerleaders and the alpha female in the group immediately shoots you down. You noticed that one cute girl almost feels sorry for you because her friend was such a jerk about your approach. So, what do you do now?  Again, it doesn’t matter as long as your actions are screaming, “I am the prize.”

So, remember, it is less about what you say or do and all about the meaning behind your words. If you can remember this simple phrase enough to make it a part of your being, you will be a champ in the dating arena.

Cute Things To Text A Girl

When you meet an interesting lady that really catches your eye, your next step is to make contact. However, when you try to think of cute things to text a girl, that first move can be really intimidating. If you want to pick the right words to impress her and win her over, stay tuned.

Your intentions are everything.

It sounds like common advice, but, even when texting, you have to remember to be yourself. There are two extremes that you want to avoid and that is being too boring or coming on too strong. If you have a certain style that is direct and highly sexualized, go for it. You are already avoiding the whole cute routine and are going straight for the animal instincts. Depending on the lady, this would be the perfect strategy.

On the other hand, if the woman you are pursuing is a bit shy sexually, sending a sexy text right away could be a disaster for you getting your foot in the door. Sure enough, she is going to be able to read between the lines of your text and see your true intentions. For this reason, using a cute text as the first text is often your best bet.

Initiating the first cute text.

Again, you do not want to come across as a horn-dog and you do not want to be generic either. One other thing to avoid is going too cutesy and being that sappy/pathetic guy that lives in the 1950s. Since females do not tend to prefer either of those three guys, being cute can still be a challenge since you can come across as cheesy and corny in the process. In these cases, the perfect cute things to text to a girl will include careful construction from your funny bone.

Does short and simple texting work?

It definitely comes across as cute to text something to a girl like, “I like you.” Its short and sweet, but it does not get her laughing. Instead, it makes her think, “Hmm… I wonder what is going on with this guy.” You never want to have her mind wandering before you get a chance to impress her, and this means that maybe you should try to establish a thought pattern instead. The best way to make a good first impression via text is to say something 100% unique to get her attention.

Steps to creating a cute text to a girl you like.

It might take a little bit of homework, but one of the best ways to say something unique that comes across as cute is easier than you think. All you need to do is go online and find a few good quotes. You can either pick a quote from someone that you both have in common or pick a random word. Of course, just like the rules of the workplace, you do not want to pick something too religious or political.

For example, searching online with the terms “quotes” and “silly” produces, “Man is the most intelligent of the animals – and the most silly.” While the first quote might be a bit awkward to text to a cute girl, actress Selma Hayeksteps in with her own silly-related quote and says, “Some men have a silly theory about beautiful women – that somewhere along the line they’ll turn into a monster. That movie gave them a chance to watch it happen.”

The Hayek quote is actually great for several reasons. First of all, it talks about beautiful women, secondly, the beginning and the end are unexpected, and it talks about movies. You can expect a lot of responses if you send a text like this to a cute girl, and all of them are going to be with her laughing. Plus, one of the responses to the Hayek quote could be, “Do you want me to go to a movie with you or something? What does this mean?” Naturally, if she is asking you if you want to go to a movie, the answer from you is, “Yes!”

Other ideas for cute things to text to a girl.

Of course, you will want to watch carefully for the person you are quoting. After all, you do not want to send a text that is so confusing that no one can figure it out. When in doubt, search online for the quoter’s name and make sure they are famous. A few examples to get you started are listed below.

“Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.” Margaret Mead

“Angels are like diamonds. They can’t be made, you have to find them. Each one is unique.” Jaclyn Smith

“If God had wanted us to be concerned for the plight of the toads, he would have made them cute and furry.” Dave Barry

“The only rule is don’t be boring and dress cute wherever you go. Life is too short to blend in.” Paris Hilton

Additional Reading:
What Is A Good First Text
5 Reasons Why Men Text Instead Of Call

Ways To Blow It When Text Messaging

I Am The Prize

Cute Things To Text A Girl

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